Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Managing Conflict

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I`m smiling to myself this morning and reflecting. I am often asked at interview, "How would you manage conflict and can you come up with any instances where you have successfully dealt with conflict?"

I`m now smiling because being a parent of children, of course conflict occurs on a regular basis and numerous times a day, from fighting over the one sink in the bathroom to full on outbreak of physical hostilities resulting in tears and resentment.
I worked on managing conflict at my residential course for my Diploma in Childbirth Education and the above bubble is one I created at bubbl.us. It is actually good for a process of brainstorming and now I`ve got the hang of moving the bubbles around I find it a great creating tool.
So back to the management of the children`s conflict, I`m quite an avid enthusiast of rewarding good behaviour and so it was a strategy I employed this morning. I avoided becoming hassled and became clear with my instructions on how I wished their behaviour would improve, I also was realistic in my expectations today, as both of them are tired and I knew it was a lost cause to expect them to get on in the same space. So I assessed the situation on a 'needs' basis of conflict and decided they needed to be in their own spaces, so staying in control I created their own interests to follow in their own rooms hence I ended up with the win/win approach, no fighting and peace and quiet for me!










Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Personal learning Environment (PLE)

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How it all began

I`ve never thought of myself as shy, at times I can be quite the opposite but as a result of the post graduate course I recently completed with Otago Polytechnic I acquired some hidden learning, or not so hidden as all will be revealed. This learning was prompted by Sarah Stewart the course tutor, she used the blogging feature to deliver course material and Elluminate to provide online 'live' classroom like tutorials on a weekly basis. All of these opened up a new world of learning and opportunities for networking and it was to set in my mind that my working future I want to become a tutor.


To start with and bookmarking

I sat back for the first few weeks but following my surgery, I began to tinker with the keyboard and began by setting up a blog. http://midwifeblogger.blogspot.com/. This did have some retitling and has undergone some 'fiddling' with but the journey of learning was just beginning. I received some immediate gratification for my daily pondering and all it resulted in was feeding my hunger for more. During the course Sarah had mentioned delicious, a bookmarking site which instead of saving any interesting articles to my favourites on the computer I just bookmarked them and it also means you can be a part of a network of individuals all sharing bookmarks. this obviously can be useful for students and cut down on research time. It was only after I connected up with Anne Cunningham through reading Sarah`s blog, that I discovered Diigo which I find is a much better bookmarking site because I can look up a reference, read an article and then blog about it and then import that blog into my E portfolio which demonstrates that I have looked up a piece of work and I am reflecting on how it may or may not affect my practice.

E portfolio

Which brings me on to E portfolio. I have had for years a paper portfolio, yet the most it held was my certificates, I was dreading the call up for audit. Taking it to my Midwifery Standards Review, I tended to hold it tightly on my lap and I was only ever fortunate enough to have someone ask is that your portfolio at which point I would just nod in acknowledgement but my arms would tighten around it defensively and no one would look at it. I found it a daunting prospect opening it and seeing the listed tasks that needed to be done and I tended to think of it as an uninspiring thing to look at. Since the course I`ve decided I`m more creative and obviously I needed a more creative space to keep updating. I was inspired to set up an E portfolio space at http://midwifepam.wikispaces.com/. This is because I enjoyed the layout more at Wiki and I can create individual pages. The ability to embed video footage into the wiki space is easier to manage than the blogger one, personally I`ve not been able to embed any video`s to blogger other than on the side bar.

Twitter

Then came twitter I signed up an account because I was going for an interview with Christchurch Polytechnic for a midwife tutor post supporting students and I included it on my presentation. I signed up but left it alone for a while as I couldn`t quite figure it out or why it was there but after spending some time in the space I`ve found it really useful. I`ve yet to make the bold move of making myself public as I still hold on to some deep seated fear that some madman is gonna track me down and murder me in my sleep! I did want to embed the video showing you the usefulness of twitter here but it wouldn`t happen for me.

Other creative elements

I also have a YouTube account which has meant I can upload videos and put them into my E portfolio and I can be more personal and give greater insight into my life. I was then nosing around on the recent Diigo bookmarks and came across http://www.piclits.com/ and this hugely appealed to my poetry creative side as there are various pictures and you can create poems with the words suggested onto the photo and then embed them on your blog. It is another useful tool for reflection. I also have a place at slideshare where I can load my slides up and then embed them into my blogs and E portfolio to share with others this then led to a comment being left by the WiZiQ team and I went along and had a look there. This is a place not only to load slides but to also gain free access to online classroom space for up to 50 people. So I am also signed up there.

So it comes to pass that I now have a large network to keep track of, lots of blogs to read and messages to catch up with and today I have learned from Sue Waters talks about the process of managing a Personal Learning Network
http://theedublogger.edublogs.org/2008/12/28/need-help-building-your-personal-learning-network-pln/

I use igoogle to try and keep as much in one place as possible along with google reader but I guess that may change.

Monday, December 29, 2008

Christmas 2008

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Well, it has been a peaceful Christmas and as you can see I had a major haircut, I was looking for more of the `Posh` pixie look but I`m still in need of losing a few kilo`s.



I must admit it is good to be coming out the other side of Christmas not having put on another 7kg and I didn`t really miss having the feeling of being stuffed all the time.






Christmas began for us with us allowing the girls to put up and dress the Christmas tree, Chris and I are too trauma ed from previous marriages to dress the tree so we leave it to the girls. Jasmine insists the tree has to be small now because our first christmas here I had to have a 7ft one which toppled over on top of her! She is now traumatised by that event and so she shops for the tree.

I had great fun opening my present from the family to find it was a Ferrari steering wheel to plug into the playstation but when I used it with the Ferrari game the guys voice kept asking me, "Do you even know how to drive?" Needless to say it will take a while before I master the art of that one!

What was even more fun has been having a very alcoholic cocktail or two on these hot summer evenings and then getting carried away on the singstar, another one of my presents. This did result, however, in a very special card from my eldest daughter the following morning where she says,

"Dear mum, last night I wrote this card while you were singing and oops the song stopped 2mins ago. How do I say this nicely, umm could I teach you how to raise your voice.

Love Jasmine"

She said she didn`t know how to put it any nicer and she wasn`t being nasty or anything but I didn`t appear to be on key a lot of the time. I blame the extra cocktail I had!


I am also paying the price today for embarking back into my fitness regime, which I developed when I first came to New Zealand, when I entered and completed a number of women`s triathlons. http://www.southerntraverse.com/Images/PDF/Individualresultv6.0.pdfhttp://www.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=6491833431744666112&postID=6957220022026616760
At my peak I could comfortably, slow jog the 5km from the house up the main road to the bridge and back, bear in mind that most people can walk quicker than my slow jog. Yesterday I started out realising how it was going to take a wee while before I get back to that, I managed to jog three lamp posts, walk three lamp posts then jog three. God, I was shattered when I got back and by yesterday evening my legs were totally immobilised and I had developed a fine John Wayne walk. Now that I`ve lost nearly 30kg I will also be able to consider getting back on my carbon fibre road bike without fear of collapsing it. I aim at the moment to do some exercise one day followed by a day off building up to doing something everyday.



Saturday, December 27, 2008

Reflecting on Publicity

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http://www.stuff.co.nz/4741977a6008.html



I was honored to have been mentioned in the above newspaper article, where a woman talks about the care I gave her during her pregnancy, labour, birth and postnatally. It did automatically leave me feeling a little uncomfortable whilst at the same time feeling proud that there was some positive midwifery reporting for a change. I`m also relieved to not be dreading the return of her feedback form on my performance.

I believe her comments reinforce in this instance how I full filled Competency Two of entry to the register of Midwives,

"The midwife applies comprehensive theoretical and scientific knowledge with the affective and technical skills needed to provide effective and safe midwifery care."

I was left to reflect and wonder, however, how many of my women were reading that article and saying but she was no good for me and I wouldn`t book with her again. That is the embarrassing part but then I realise that we all to often find it easier to live with criticism than it is to revel in our achievements.

Tuesday, December 23, 2008

My 5 star poem!

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PicLit from PicLits.com
See the full PicLit at PicLits.comhttp://www.piclits.com/blog.aspx?PoemId=4278

ARCHI - Midwifery Led Education into High Schools

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Posted from Diigo. The rest of my favorite links are here.

I am really trying to get to grips with improving the service of delivering good antenatal classes to the young mums of Marlborough. These classes have to be informative and engaging and offer some sort of incentive to attend. we have already found that attendance is better with the weekend style of delivery and better for us if we provide the classes 9am-1pm over 3 Saturday mornings.

Lizzie Smith, Teenage Pregnancy Midwife, Birmingham Heartlands Hospital also provides a 4-6pm drop in style of class with other health professionals delivering sessions on smoke cessation, sexual health and contraception. She recognises the need for good advertising and good funding.

Text messaging service

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Posted from Diigo. The rest of my favorite links are here.

I am currently looking at how I can improve attendance of my young mums at the antenatal course which I am responsible for providing.

Lizzie Smith, Teenage Pregnancy Midwife, Birmingham Heartlands Hospital in the Uk describes in a newsletter how she purchased a web based texting programme. The texting service reminds them about the group and also sends out pregnancy information sound bites.

Friday, December 19, 2008

Gutted

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Gutted, I didn`t get the new job I went for.

Ahhhhhhhhhh School Holidays

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Ohhhhh the joy!

By 8.30 this morning I had a sore throat and was a stamping raging bull, the girls were fighting and there was lots of yelling, oh my god there is six weeks of this.

I have been putting off cleaning the girls rooms and I have lived in fear of entering, there was no visible space on either bedroom floor and I refused to go in and do it. So this morning was about not putting up the Christmas tree until the girls tidied their rooms. The usual groans and moans ensued with pulling faces and dragging feet they both plonked themselves in the middle of their respective floors playing with the nearest toy they could find.
I wondered what I could do to motivate them and in the end I said that whilst I had my rooms to tidy we would declare it a race and the first to finish would get a large muffin of choice ( you know the ones from New World in the pack of four). Well they both knew that the loser would end up with the bran and sultana muffin and not the smartie one, ohhh the horror.
Amazingly, it worked, by 10.30 I had vacuumed both their rooms, vacuum intact with nothing stuck up it and their beds were made, happy mum and happy kids.
The youngest won the muffin race.

I`ve been off to the warehouse and bought crayons and pencils and paper and peace for the moment is restored. They are keen though to take my character through second life they are fasinated to see her fly!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

How much to give, how much to hold back?

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I`ve been putting a lot of thought recently into why my chosen career of Midwifery took so much out of me in a short space of time. I been left reflecting about how much of myself I gave away to each and eveyone I shared the journey of birth with. This is mainly because now even as I shop around town women still come up to me and throw their arms around me and display concern when I tell them I`m not answering their text messages anymore because my phone is now permanently in the toilet.
I must admit its lovely to go to bed without that last minute panic conversation between my husband and I, which included, "Where`s my phone?" or just wondering off to sleep to realise its not on the bedside table and I`m too tired to get out of bed and because he is near the door I spend 10mins convincing him to go and get it for me. I sleep well now knowing that it is only the pets and children who will wake me from my slumber.
It was always women who were on subsequent pregnancies that used to get particularly attached to me because they used to compare me with previous midwives and say how open I was. This aspect tended to make me popular in the community but now I feel that I gave too much, opened myself up to each persons emotional need and absorbed it which I believe is what drained me the most.
So how do we learn to hold back and keep ourselves intact? I`m not sure it is possible, the women want it but do they have the right to demand it?

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Ahhh such is life!

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My parents sent me a very special picture for my birthday, me when I was six years old.

Isn`t that so sweet! We never wore suncream.

You can see the ambulance station in the background, when I was seven I came home with the top of my finger bent over, my mum told me to go away and come back when I could straighten it again. After six hours and when it was very painful she finally took me over to see the ambulance men who said I should go to the hospital, it was then confirmed I had broken the tendon in my ring finger. It still remains slightly bent to this day!


I was very proud of my husband last night he got to the diagnosis in House in record time, I only know he`s in trouble when the huge medical text comes out. We just love the bedside manner or lack of and the way he makes no excuses for saying just what he thinks.
I`m still on tenderhooks waiting for the phone to ring and nearly drove off the road when one magpie flew over the car on the way home, I`ve really got to get over that one!
The best news is that I`m now wearing my size 18 jeans! Hooray!! I can just about squeeze into one of my pair of shorts but they don`t warrant wearing in public view.

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

Creative poetry for the day

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PicLit from PicLits.com
See the full PicLit at PicLits.com

Maybe music at last

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This is a great one


Kiwi Xmas.mp3

Disappointed

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Well, yes, I am disappointed, the blog has let me down. I spent yesterday looking through various bookmarks on delicious and found some new tools to experiement with reflection. I found a scrapblog and after completing one I managed to import it into my portfolio on wikispaces but it doesn`t seem to transport all that well to here. I`m also having trouble pasting my video embed information into the blog posts from youtube which is a bit of a pain.


Best of both worlds


I like blogger for the layout but I like wiki for the ease of importing other types of media so it would seem at the moment I am stuck with having both of them.


Wandering off subject


I came home this morning from taking the girls to school and sat down at the computer, I found a comment on the other blog, http://nzmidwiferypractisingreflection.blogspot.com from an author of books! She said my post was interesting and sensitively written, wow what a boost!

So I`ve been getting to grips with Twitter, I have mixed feelings about Twitter but I`m sure once I`ve got to grips with it I`ll be fine. I`ve also been setting up another google group for reflection and inviting a few people by email so most of my morning has been taken up with it. I realised at lunchtime when I lifted myself out of the chair to get a cup of tea that I`d been staring at the computer screen so long my vision had gone wonky! It has adjusted now and I`ve managed to empty the washing machine and transfer the wet clothes to the dryer. Can anyone tell me as well, who is responsible for removing tissues from pockets before washing? I had to remove a handfull of soggy, wet, tissue from just inside the washing machine door. How glamorous. My thoughts then wandered to tea and what to put in the oven, this is because the washing machine is next to the freezer and it sparked a reminder, so I lifted something out for tea and put it in the oven.


Back to music


I`ve been determined to add a musical element to my blog but even following the instructions, I`ve not yet managed it which is a bugger. I may have inadvertently made a podcast this morning however!

Friday, December 12, 2008

Superstitions

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I know now that my superstitions border on hysteria, yesterday I nearly had myself admitted for psychiatric help.
Let me explain, I had a special event to attend, I can`t yet tell you what, I may jinx the process so that story will have to wait but the event involved needing some good luck. I wonder if any of you have heard the rhyme about magpies?

One for sorrow,
Two for joy,
Three for a girl,
And four for a boy.
Well, I always begin to feel anxious whenever I just see one magpie and have been known to almost crash the car whilst driving because I`m busy trying to crane my neck to see where the other one is. I always wondered too, if you see one magpie in each field as you are driving can you add them up or does each magpie signify more and more sorrow. I prefer the add them up option.
So yesterday whilst I was preparing for my `event` I could hear the noise of a magpie outside the bathroom whilst I was in the shower. I really didn`t want to look out the window when I got out the shower, mainly because I didn`t want to just see one of them, which would have ruined my whole day so I was letting the water run over me wondering how to get around it.
So I opened the shower door and reached out grabbed the towel and endeavoured to dry myself off first in the shower, I always do this the shower keeps in the heat and I like to be dry before I get out. I then decided that I could probably keep my eyes closed as I got out the shower to avoid seeing the magpie, but as I did, I tripped over the bottom of the towel and went flying as I got out and banged my head on the bath. Needless to say, yes magpies are bad luck!

Monday, December 8, 2008

Christmas is coming

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Christmas is coming, the goose is getting fat,
Please put a penny in the old man`s hat,
If you haven`t got a penny,
A half penny will do,
If you haven`t got half penny,
Then god bless you!
That`s a rhyme my grandad always use to say to me!
As some would notice I`ve become slightly widget obsessed, I love them and I`ve spent ages trying to look for some good ones much to the detriment of the housework and the washing. I did find a music one with blogger but when I tried to put the background music on the blog stopped working so I had to hurriedly delete that one! Ahh it`s all a learning curve.
My husband also wants to know why he keeps getting all these emails saying 'Welcome to ........' as I`ve signed up to twitter and lijit and all kinds of other things. I just got very nervous when I signed up to mybloglog and I received an email saying some bloke from York was following me so I wizzed off to mybloglog and deleted myself, I had visions of Chris coming home saying who`s this bloke then!

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Quantum Solace

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We went to the movies last night to watch Quantum Solace I must admit I was a little nervous being a big James Bond fan because the critics had panned it. I must say however that they must have been watching a different movie.

From the moment the action starts I found myself whincing and pulling my face as Daniel Craig chased the bad guy jumping through doorways and smashing through glass, this stuntman action really makes you feel a part of the action like no other Bond movies have. I found myself whincing thinking, `God that must hurt,` and ducking in my seat, hats off to the makers of the movie who really made me feel a part of it.
One of my favourite lines was when Judy Dench as `M` is walking through the corridors of MI6 being briefed and she is approached by someone trying to give her some inconsequencial information and someone turns to him and says, `Don`t she`s not in the mood.` Yes, Judy Dench is brilliant as `M` and she has the character much more in the thick of the action than the stuffy old `M` we used to see. She is typical of most female leaders keeping herself appraised of all the action as it happens and always being in control although with Bond it wouldn`t surprise me if she just gives him a knock over the head like any matriarcal figure would do to a wayward teenager.
Love Interest
The critics don`t seem to understand that Daniel Craig is playing the early Bond without polish and this film is connected to Casino Royale, it is without surprise then that he doesn`t fall madly in love with the leading character because as women we would feel that would be a betrayal of the feelings he had for Vespa in Casino Royale. If he had how are we supposed to trust when he is in love or not and we would certainly lose respect for him if he was so fickle. We do forgive him, his little tryst with the MI6 office worker, after all he is a man and he has needs. I do enjoy the referrance to Goldfinger with the manner in which she died.
Bad guy
The crtics mentioned that the bad guy was weak and just some `small town criminal just stealing the water supplies of the needy`. Why should this come as any surprise, we had just a bank robber in Goldfinger who happened to just want to knock off Fort Knox and a diamond thief in Diamonds are Forever but they seemed to miss that he is part of a much bigger network of bad guys which gives Bond more problems to deal with in the future. This aspect of the film seemed to be as much about laying down a future foundation as about the one bad guy that Bond is concentrating on in this film.
The only thing I would like to mentioned is that when Bond is entering a suspects apartment I wouldn`t expect him to ever turn his back on the room whilst he closes the door, he may have put himself at unnecessary risk. The action was so fast in that room that whereas the Bond played by Sean Connery we would have known that he heard the knife click and casually been ready for it, in this film I`m not so sure that Daniel Craig`s Bond was ready. Again this can just be a referrance to Bond`s lack of polish or it is a reflection on the fast action filming style of the movie.
I do enjoy the consistencies in wardrobe, the blood stain on the white shirt which got drier and drier and darker and darker. There was also the marks on Bond`s chest, when we saw it, which showed the scratches and bruises of those close up fights.
Technology
The critics mentioned the lack of gadgets, did they not notice the computer technology at MI6 or the phone technology? I almost despaired when I saw the Austin Martin get wrecked in what was one of the most exciting car chases I`ve seen for a while. I found myself involuntarily swinging from side to side in my seat trying to avoid a collision.
Character of Bond
In this movie we see Daniel Craig really bringing some depth to the character of Bond, those cool blue eyes which fail to hide the heartbrake of the death of Vespa and we begin to see the reason for some heavy drinking. The sorrow he portrays as he holds his friend in the middle of the street is marvelous. He wears his tux well and manages to pull of the wearing of a cardigan to the degree that I think I need to buy my husband one.
CIA
In this movie we see the real side of the CIA, all too often their idea of a secret service is to meddle in the governments of other countries all in the name of oil. I can`t honestly remember if this loose end was tried up in the film but maybe something will come to light in further movies. The department head of the CIA was a slimey individual, easy to hate and actually not well acted
Point to question
I`m just not sure that the large building housing the bad guys at the end was a good way to go. The relevance to the plot was not explained well and it seemed that someone thought,`Oh we forgot about having bad guy place to blow up at the end so we will just stick this together.` It seemed to me that somehow the connection of this building to the story had ended up on the cutting room floor and they hoped that noone would notice that it seemed to bear no relevance to what was going on. I had no idea who owned it or the relevance of what appeared to be gas tanks in the wall. There was a tiny referrance in a conversation between two bad guys but it was easily missed.
Annoying habit
Wouldn`t you just love to educate properly an American audience then we wouldn`t have to but up with a title shot everytime we move cities which say London, England or Rome, Italy. It really gets on my nerves.

Anyhow thats my take on the movie, its worth watching and I certainly look forward to adding it to my DVD collection when it is released.

Monday, December 1, 2008

So excited

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So excited.




Yes, I`m so excited we received this morning solar powered christmas lights ( these were mentioned on Sarah`s blog and I just thought I`ve got to find some) so I have spent part of the morning already putting them around the white rail which goes in front of the house. I will put a picture of the house on so that it give you a clearer idea.


We have 24hrs of sunlight charging before the `big switch on` and I know that my girls will love it.




Weeding


This unfortunately led to some weeding, I`m always surprised at how one job leads to another, its the same when I do the housework, I start off in the kitchen, then go to the loo in the middle of cleaning and then spot the loo needs cleaning and do that, then see the sink is a mess and clean that. I then come out the bathroom to find the kitchen is still a mess and get back to that and so on and so forth I always seem to be going backwards and forwards. Thats why, now I still have an untidy kitchen because I got distracted weeding before breakfast and now my legs feel all weak and shaky so I`ve had to sit down and recover.




Presents


I`ve not yet been christmas shopping, even though I have to send things overseas, and I have this annoying habit of buying things for the girls putting them away and forget that I have bought them. I then come across them in February and March and end up giving them to the girls then so I`ve resolved to shop closer to chrismas.




Same parents, same upbringing two different personalities.


My girls are very close in age one is 7yrs old and the other is 6yrs old and their personalities are totally different. The eldest, Jasmine is a girly girl, wears dresses and has bratz dolls (I hate them), Jemima at the age of six is a confirmed boy/girl as she like to tell me. She plays with cars, Ben 10 and screams her head off if I so much as even suggest that she may put a dress on, she will only wear shorts and wants to campaign at school not to wear the girls uniform (a pinafore dress) but she wants to wear the boys shorts. Thats why she wants to go to college in Chrischurch because she can wear shorts and study surfing because she dreams of becoming a `surfer doode.` Jasmine on the other hand wants to love and care for animals, neither of them want to become a midwife like their mum or a doctor like their dad because, "that seems too much like hard work mum."




So maybe I will go christmas shopping next week...............